Born within the limitations and scope of a small well, there lived a frog who perceived the world to be as shallow and limited as the well. His world was small, and so he decided one day to climb out of the well to see what was outside that small circle of light at the top of his world. As he climbed out, all the other frogs told him he shouldn’t do it, couldn’t do it, how bad it would be and then started to pull the frog back down as he climbed higher. The frog got out and discovered a whole world so different from the well. When he went back to tell the other frogs they still ostracized him
Today, I will tell you how we human beings, just like frogs, might have a similar mindset. That how frogs, just like human beings, pull down any frog escaping from the well. But before starting the discussion about the Tall Poppy Syndrome, let me conclude the frog’s story with one simple lesson.
“The Frogs in the Well have no idea about the ocean.”
The Tall Poppy Syndrome
Often we don’t recognize that the tall poppy syndrome is alive and well. The Tall Poppy Syndrome has meant different things to different countries, and in fact, different things to people living inthe same country. It is a highly relative term, and let me explain to you what it means here in Australia.
The Tall Poppy Syndrome, as Wikipedia says, is a social phenomenon where people of genuine merit are resented, criticized and socially attacked for the talent (or achievements) that elevates them above from their peers.
There are different names given to the tall poppy syndrome, which includes:
- Jealousy of ‘success.’
- A sheer display of ‘stupidity.’
- A proof of ‘ignorance.’
- A simple way to confront the limitations of some ‘traditional’ conceptions.
I would first like to explain how Australians have interpreted Tall Poppy! Let me give you an example here. If you are in America and you are talking about Tall Poppy, then you are probably discussing the ‘Tall Poppy Plant’-an amazing plant having some beautiful red or yellow color flowers at the top. But if you are using Tall Poppy in Australia, then maybe you are using it as a sign to warn someone for ‘Not getting taller to you’ (or else you will chop them). A lot of Australians have this hidden agenda that if you are a bit lower to them, then it is completely fine but if you exceed, become successful or grow better than them, then you tend to move out of the circle of mediocre. So you no longer remain the acceptable one… and there is no group feeling left. You are left alone because you rise above the crowd. YES REDICULOUS!!!
In Australia we like to see success; however, we like people to be at the same level as we are now. It is very innate that we want to belong; this vibe keeps us the same as everyone around us. We want to have this sense of belongingness and similarity in our respective communities. But just like frogs, we are not happy if someone simply rises above the situation and grows successfully. For instance, I see women who are almost busting out of their skins to share what they know, yet cannot due the Tall Poppy energy working around them. So what can you do to stand, be who truly are, to burst out of our skins, to share what we know and be more? Well, I have a solution for you!
Tall Poppy Syndrome
When it is good for the society
When it is Bad for the society
|It is good when it is ‘Constructive’ for the society.||Bad as a product of jealousy.|
|When we allow our values and culture diversity to flourish.||When we limit ourselves within the cocoons of traditions.|
|When observation play a major role in forming a collective opinion.||When we make it an excuse to treat someone like dirt.|
MY SOLUTION: Dealing with the Tall Poppy Syndrome
- Have that constant awareness and conscienceness alive in you:
We need to have this constant awareness to be more and be extraordinary.It is this awareness that motivates us to grow and to be the best in our respective capabilities.Awareness is about what you are thinking and believing. Question yourself, question people around you, allow others to question you. Be aware of your thinking and your ideas.
Your People Matter the Most:
I say it in almost in every blog, surround ourselves with people who will ask ourselves questions and ask more of us than what you do of ourselves.
Surround yourselves with people who believe in you, who support you and at the same time, the people who are also ready to push you a little further than you are now. Sometimes, you might not like the push but in order to grow, you need to push yourself a little further. You CANNOT surround yourself with “FROGS”!!!
- Put yourself in an environment that allows you to ‘Change’:
For people to grow and be more, we need to put ourselves in environment where we can change at our speed, with no judgment. There is absolutely no problem in slow learning…as far as you are a great learner, speed doesn’t matter AT ALL! It is the efficiency of your time that matters. Time is all we have.
I say “if you rush you are in scarcity of time”.
- Be your own JUDGE:
Your best judge is YOURSELF! When we are in a mediocre environment, we put a lot of weight on how we will be perceived by other people. Perceptions are fine, but self-respect (especiallytaking your own stand) is very important. Do you have YOU for your own support? THINK!!!
- Ask yourself:
In whatever condition you are- ask yourself ‘is this where I wanted to be or am I here because my people or my community wanted to see me here”? You will get the answer! Ask a clear question of yourself.
It doesn’t matter whether we are Australians, Americans, Indians, if we live anywhere, what matters the most is our tendency to allow GROWTH in our respective lives. We have to realize that human civilization has been the greatest of all- it has been a history of achievers and winners. During my BRAND IT experience, I have learned that victory has no taste when there is no one to appreciate it. You need to keep your set of people and values close to your heart in order to enjoy the best dose of victory.
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Have the best day!